Let me explain why using coaching rather than matching agencies to find love is so much more effective:
1. When it comes to knowing what you need and desire in a relationship, you are the greatest expert. Who is the most suitable candidate to fulfill your demands and requirements?
2. Since you will have done the in-depth inner work required to identify who would be the ideal spouse for you, coaching will help you communicate the correct information to your potential partner. You will be able to communicate your core relationship principles and life goals to whomever you date in order to establish compatibility. Without coaching, you could be telling your matchmaker the same details about the particular person you want to meet that hasn’t worked for you in the past.
3. When you consider dating in the perspective of your whole life, finding a soulmate is more successful. We are able to make it very plain to you who you should meet. Not trivial details like height or hair color, but the core of who this individual is! We have access to both the internal thought barriers that are preventing you from finding your soul mate and the external, now beyond of your control, barriers. Often, you need to make changes in other aspects of your life before you are genuinely ready for a life partner.
4. You get access to a lot more individuals when you date online! Your matchmaker can't possibly have that wide of a network. Find out how many individuals in your age group are active in their database by asking them. Then inquire as to how many of those individuals are spending thousands of dollars in comparison to you. And this number is significantly lower if you have to confine your search to a certain region.
5. You spend a lot of money using these matchmaking services, yet the majority of the potential partners they introduce you to are completely free! As a result, their applicants are less engaged in the selection process than you are. Therefore, if you are not precisely what they are searching for, they won't ask you out again. I recommend you ask your matchmaker about how many paid clients do they currently have in in your age range (of the particular sex you are interested that are paying the same amount of money as you are.
6. Letting someone know that you are spending this much money looking for a partner might be daunting (and put a lot of pressure on you). And especially if you are a female who is using a matchmaker, I would think most men would be easily scared off. When my female consumers used matching services, I saw this.
7. Matchmaking service work best for men in their late 40's and early 50's and women in their mid 30's to early 40's who have the goal of getting married for the purpose of having a family. Here, time is a key concern. I don't recommend it for you if you are outside that range. Most people don't have the "My time is valuable" motivation.